Is It Naptime Yet

Eden often likes to play games with Lilah. She’ll count and go find Lilah for hide and seek and even though Lilah will continuously say she’s not playing, Eden will continue to count and go find her sister in the exact same spot. It breaks my heart a little but Eden doesn’t seem to be disappointed by the situation. She laughs as she counts and gives me a big smile once she finds Lilah.

This morning the girls had chased each other or raced to the room. Eden continued to chase Lilah and eventually I heard “Eden I’m not playing, stop chasing me.” So Eden did. In fact I think she’d been in the bathroom brushing her hair for at least a minute before Lilah realized she was in fact not being chased. As Lilah realized that Eden was not interested in chasing her but was in fact interested in brushing her hair her attitude changed.
After a short time I heard, “Eden come chase me.” and Eden apparently was not in the mood because she just came and stood between me and the mirror and said no.
Eden had had enough rejection.
Eventually Eden did go play with Lilah and they had a grand ole time running around chasing each other.
I realized that Lilah was mastering the art of flirting without the flirting, so I guess it was the technique of flirting.
No I don’t want you now that you want me. Wait, you don’t want me, I want you.
Maybe it’s just familiar to us. As long as we’re doing the rejection it’s fine, but once a person willfully leaves we lose the power that we wanted.

So we’ve decide no more little rubber bands for Eden’s hair. She’s pulled the last trick and put the last rubber band into her body.
Today she was asleep once we got home from a morning of errands. I laid my angel down and she and Lilah took long naps.
Well both girls awoke and at some point before I got in there Eden took her hair holders out once again.
I asked where they went and she said her nose. I couldn’t see anything when I look up her nose with a light and we found one of the rubber bands in her bed. I would have taken her to a quick care right away but we have a well doctor’s appointment tomorrow. So I was torn, should I talk her or do I wait? Well the night progressed and I checked up there after dinner sometime. I saw where it was lodged and as I went to retrieve it with tweezers the thought that I could do more harm then good came to mind since it was in a precarious spot and then I remembered how a woman’s son had aspirated a popcorn corneal and had lots of problems. I finally decided to take her to a quick care. It was 7:45 and I was I hoping to get there before 8 pm. Well it didn’t matter that I made it there before 8 because it closed at 7:30pm. I called Jon and asked him to page the doctor to see if it could wait until tomorrow. I guess he chuckled at the thought of waiting and said, yes we should get it taken care of tonight. I was waiting at Target to return shoelaces while he paged the doctor so I just finished some shopping.
(We’ve decided to try the little barrettes to see if they’ll keep her hair out of her face, since Jon won’t let me cut bangs on her.)
I went to the ER and waited forever. We finally got in and it took very little time to get the small clear rubber band out. I think it was easily 1/2 inch in but more between 3/4 to an inch deep within her nasal cavity from how far the light thingy went up her nose. The first doctor couldn’t find it at first so I think for a few seconds he thought I was just an overreacting mother until he spotted it. I held her head while the first doctor held the light and the main doctor retrieved it and a nurse watched and also held Eden’s head. It was a little scary for Eden and she didn’t want to talk after that, but she did give the nurse a high five.
Eden got stickers and I received lots of complements on her cuteness and her good behavior of being calm while they got the rubber band out.
So that was my night. I got home around 10:40pm and Eden was still awake, as was Lilah who was anxiously awaiting her sisters arrival.
Oh the adventures of motherhood!

On Saturday we got a new queen bed, only it wasn’t new. It was free from a friend of my sister Carolyn’s or Chris who also got us Phantom tickets. He didn’t need it anymore due to moving in with his girlfriend and was just giving it away. Since Carolyn and Derrek were getting married he offered it to them, but they want a king bed, so she offered he give it to us and it all work out that way. It was described as a bed that was firm with back support, and Jon wanted a firm bed, so we took it. I am a little like “It is a used bed” but Jon reminds me that we sleep in hotels and really you never know when the last time they washed the comforter was, etc. It’s not too bad of a mattress. I got use to sleeping on my back and not moving the whole night on my other mattress and with this one I’ve been tossing a little while I get use to it. I’m not sore waking up so I consider that an improvement over the last one. Jon was sleeping on the couch for a few months, because I keep him awake by bumping into him and rolling close. Now that he’s older he needed a good nights sleep and he was less tired at work while we slept apart. In fact I got use to having our old bed to myself so when I had him sleep with me a night for my birthday I found it annoying since I sank towards him. With this bed there is no sinking towards one another, or at least it’s very slight and we each have plenty of room. (I don’t feel that sleeping in separate rooms distanced us, we still found time to be close and even just cuddle when we watched tv or whatever. )
I do like having us in the same bed, but there is a part of me that loved having my own bed.:)

Eden also got a new bed, relatively speaking, this weekend. On Saturday Jon saw her climb into her crib, while the gate was down, but he figured if she could climb in she might climb out and didn’t want her to hurt herself doing the latter. We changed my baby’s crib to a toddler bed. The girls now love it. Yesterday they spent hours in there playing with toys in the morning and then hours in the afternoon reading books and the fighting was even to a minimum.
Besides being tall enough to climb into her bed Eden now reaches the doorhandles and opens doors. I remember it took Lilah a little while to be able to do that, so I’m pretty sure Eden is taller than Lilah was at this age.
Our room is now no longer safe from either little girl and I may need to lock the door, which I would find annoying every time I have to go to the bathroom since I like ours, but thus far if the door is shut they know not to go in there. We just have a general rule of respecting privacy and not playing in our room without us there.
They’re growing up but I wouldn’t want another one right now. Babysitting Naia has reminded me how needy a baby is and how easy a toddler is in some ways. I’m use to the girls feeding themselves and entertaining themselves and Naia doesn’t do that, except entertain herself sometimes. I like the baby who visits. It gives me my reality check of what three kids might be like.

For our date last night we had $24 allotted in our budget. (We went over last month and  this month we compensate. It’s easier in some categories than others, like gas we’re -$50 since we went to Utah, so that doesn’t count when Jon has to fill up to got to work.)
We went to the Daily Chicken Gyro, it’s a fast food type Mediterranean restaurant and hookah lounge. I’ve only been there once before and I think we were engaged, where it had looked very cheesy and I was like, you want to go where for dinner?  They have since bought the space that was next to it and redecorated and it was very nice. We spent $24.02 for our date, score, now we have to be creative the rest of the month if we want to go out.
I enjoyed a garlic chicken sandwich  and some humus. It was not too garlicky but Jon did have a chicken that also had garlic. Really even if you both have garlic breath do you really feel more inclined to kiss? Anyways, it was nice to hang around and talk in the very quite atmosphere since their was about one other restaurant costumer and about 4 people in the hookah lounge.  I also enjoyed the aroma that the hookah’s gave off also. (Jon says it’s very busy at lunch hour, with being straight across the street from UNLV, they do business lunches there sometimes.)

We then headed of to Fry’s. I actually saw the welcome to Las Vegas sign for the first time. I never knew where it was located, nor cared. I think they have another one on a different side of town too, because I remember it being somewhere else.
I played solitaire on a computer while Jon chose what he wanted. Then we picked up our  girls from Sam’s house where they had had fun playing with Britta. Eden actually went in to help clean up the room before we left. She didn’t want to leave it a mess. Sam says she’s always a good helper. I’m happy that she’s always willing to help at other people’s houses, but it seems that it’s 50/50 whether or not she’ll clean up before she has to take a time out here.

So we have a new computer but it’s not set up. I still need to print out tomorrows Sunday school lesson and I forbade him to do anything until that was done. Jon’s also been doing other things.
I started cutting out Eden’s dress. I had the pieces pinned to the fabric and then it was time to lay Lilah down for a nap. I was tired so I figured I’d take a short nap. It turned out to be an hour later when Jon came and woke me in Lilah’s bed. I then went to our room and slept another hour and a half. So I have wasted some time but I think I’ll get it all cut out tonight. I was wanting to have the skirt sewn so I could hem it at my mom’s house while we’re there tomorrow. I do sew on Sunday’s if I have too and I consider this a I have too moment since I’d have to drive out there on Monday or Tuesday to do this one thing, I think not with how much time and gas I’d spend.

Side note. Jon’s dad fainted at Costco on Friday so they went to the ER on the recommendation of one of their doctor’s He was admitted overnight and as of 2 this afternoon they still have no idea what it was. They may not figure it out but we think he’ll be out soon.
He’s 77 for those who don’t know and as had declining health for most of our marriage, but he keeps chugging along. He recently had his pacemaker changed and the battery replaced and Mom said that really appeared to help him. I think he will be fine as long as he takes it easy, though he has a very hard time taking it easy.

I had a few things that I wanted to get done today. The day started out late but we still got to my mom’s house around 11:30. I left the girls there so I could run some errands.
I had to get my rings checked out at the jewelers. They’re so nice and shiny now.
I had to buy some bras. Wahoo for new bras!
While at that store I bought a cute purse. It’ll go well with the dress I’m wearing for Carolyn’s wedding.
I looked at earrings and necklaces to go with my dress, but I just can’t seem to find what I want.
I did find a cute sterling silver dangle set of earrings. Not too much dangle since I don’t wear earrings often.
I put them on in the car and almost didn’t get them in since it’s been forever since I wore earrings.
I went to Target to get sheets. Were getting a bed this Saturday and I need queen sheets, opposed to our full sized sheets for our small full sized bed.
I couldn’t find any jewelry there to go with my dress either.
Baby stuff was on clearance so I got some good deals on baby stuff since we’re having Andrea’s baby shower Labor day weekend.
I wanted to buy some organic cotton sheets that are oh so pretty, but it would have been $60 for sheets and pillow cases. *cough *cough. Jon said I should get the cheaper ones, still 250 thread count, but not as soft and not shiny. 🙁 maybe some day I’ll have very luxurious sheets. 🙂

I got to my moms around 1:45 and ate some lunch and then started working on putting Lilah’s zipper on her dress. Since I sew about once a year I forget how to do this and my sewing machine doesn’t have a zipper foot.
I ran into a lot of problems. It was soo frustrating. I was about to go home with an unfinished zipper when I heard my mom tell the kids to start getting their cloths off since they were muddy. (It had rained that morning and where they’d normally play in the dirt it was a wonderful mud pond.)
I got mad.
I wanted to go home and they were now muddy!
Eden started walking in the house with muddy feet and I said in the ‘pay attention to mommy immediately’ voice to “GO OUTSIDE NOW.”
Lilah then decided to proceed in with muddy feet once Eden was outside so I had to use the ‘pay attention to mommy immediately‘ voice on her also. They both started crying, no doubt because it was way past nap time. I lifted Eden and got her in the shower in the down stairs bathroom. It’s a shower so of course she was scared of it and trying to get herself out of the water since this was her first experience with a shower, and lately she’s even been scared of our sprinkler! I of course was just fighting her back and telling her we had to clean up. Lilah came in and I got her in the shower also. I was upset and I threatened that we could never come back since they had gotten muddy. Lilah then said that she was done getting muddy and wouldn’t get muddy again. I felt bad but I was so stressed and I had only a onsie for Eden and not even a change of underwear for Lilah in the diaper bag.
They got cleaned up and while we waited for Lilah’s underwear to dry I took out my mistake in the zipper and had a conversation with Lilah about mommy’s getting mad when their kids get dirty. I apologized and asked if she was having fun and she said yes. Of course she had fun she had played in the mud all day Saturday too, but that was in a swimsuit.
I got the zipper in finally and have decided to put the bow on the back of the dress as to cover my mistakes.
I have a temper similar to my fathers and I know I was treating my mother like he does when he gets upset.
“How you could you let them get muddy and play outside?”
(Really she didn’t realize it was muddy and just thought they’d have more fun outside. Katy and Howie were there at this time and they all got muddy together.)
“I knew I should have gone home sooner, then they would have stayed cleaned!”
(It was good that they got muddy because now I have a complete zipper and not a still needs to be fixed zipper on Lilah’s dress.)
I felt really bad. I was a bad mommy and daughter. I called and apologized just now, but I still feel bad. My anger gets the better of me at times and I’d rather get mad then suck it up and go with the flow.
Sorry Mom for getting so upset, but you gave me my fathers temper instead of your patience while I was still in the womb. 🙂

Last night we all took a trip to the grocery store for FHE. We needed to go grocery shopping since we were completely out of milk and we’ve had only one egg since I made Eden’s cake on Wednesday. One of us needed to go and neither of us wanted to go alone so we all went. It was fun to be together.
Jon and I always did our grocery shopping together before we had Lilah. We would both keep each other in line from going over our budget, or we’d also go over together. (If he wasn’t there I’d wouldn’t buy the snack I wanted, like ice cream, if I was already at our limit, but if we were together we’d often decide that it was OK.)
We really enjoyed our grocery shopping trips and of course it was time being spent together. Once we had Lilah Jon would sometimes go alone or I’d go to just to get out of the house. I think I went alone a lot and if Jon went he’d often take Lilah once she got older. It more depended on how much time we had to run the errand. Jon and Lilah would always have fun daddy daughter time when they went together so I enjoyed seeing them come home and Lilah excitedly showing me what they got. (He semi-regularly got something that really interested our little girl, like a ball or ice cream cones.) Once Eden came along it was usually one of us going alone, though we still took Lilah. In fact we got into the habit of only taking Lilah until Eden became old enough to realize that she was being left behind, then we started rotating who we took. I still do most of the shopping and I like to do it alone, especially if I hit two stores, which I often try to do.

Well last night was fun. Jon had Eden walking instead of in the cart and she loved it. She also love grabbing things that were at eye level and right there for her little hands. The best thing was to distract her and have her bring the other parent the grocery item that we were getting in that isle. Eden was good most of the time, but had to be put in the cart for the check out line, in which she was not too happy.Once the cashier gave her stickers she was happy the rest of the time.
It was fun to have us all together. I liked it when I didn’t know where the lemon juice was and Jon did so he went all the way back to the produce isle to get it for me and Eden trucked along with him. It was cute.
While Jon was getting the lemon juice Lilah and I were looking at the vitamins.
Lilah at one point hugged me and asked, “Where’s Hunny Bunny?”
me: “Hunny Bunny? Who’s Hunny Bunny?”
Lilah: “Daddy’s Hunny Bunny.”
Me: “Who calls Daddy Hunny Bunny? You don’t.”
Lilah: “You call Daddy Hunny Bunnny. Why do you call Daddy Hunny Bunny?”
Then I go into the explanation of nick names and how we often call people several names.
She replies saying that some people call Daddy Jonathan too.
I thought this was funny mostly because Lilah has never called us anything but mommy, mom, Daddy or dad.
She has called me Lacey after Katy had, but even then she didn’t know who she was really referring too and said my name wasn’t Lacey, it’s Mommy.
I also think I haven’t called Jon Hunny Bunny in a little bit, but she filed that information somewhere and it came out while at the grocery store.
If it weren’t for the fact that it takes more time and I’m not getting my alone time I’d have us all go to the grocery store more often.

Well Eden’s birthday was mostly fun. Lilah had a hard time sharing the balloon we got for Eden, or really even being apart from it, other than that whining it was a great day.
It started out that we had to got to Target to get Eden’s presents and some other miscellaneous things. We then stopped off at Smith’s for fruit and lunch for the adults that would be coming over.
Sam and Britta came over around 11:30. We had fun chatting while the girls colored and played  a little. I also baked some ready made cookie dough so we could have a snack.  We had the Stouffer’s Panini’s for lunch and the girls ate sandwiches. (I wanted to go to Costco and get turkey wraps but I didn’t have enough time to head over there.)

Towards the end of lunch Emily, from our church, and her two daughters, Katia (3) and Isabell (2), came by. I invited over just a couple people because our house is small and I didn’t want to do a party, it was more like a glorified play date.

All the girls got along well. One funny occurrence happened with Isabell. She saw a koosh ball on the ground and thought it was a spider and gave out a little scream. Emily went back to check on her and she tried to show her it was just a ball but Isabell was not buying it. Emily tossed it into the girls room and from that point on Isabell would not go into their room and stayed in the living room with us and she kept telling us about the “spider”. It was cute.
Everyone left about nap time.  I sent them off with some gladware containers that had Disney princesses or Hello Kitty on them. (They were in the dollar isle at target and I thought they’d be an easy “glorified play date constellation prize”.)
I baked a cake while the girls were sleeping and we had Eden’s favorite meal for dinner, Pot pies and rice and then some cottage cheese.

We weren’t planning on having any extended family for cake and ice cream but earlier that morning my mom called about coming over. She was out of town on Lilah’s birthday and had to work the night we celebrated Kaitlyn’s birthday so she wanted to come over for Eden’s birthday “since she could”. I think the grandma guilt of missing the other two granddaughters birthdays had just gotten to her. So for cake we had my parent’s and my brother Glenn here also.
Eden got two board books, one regular wooden puzzle and a fishing game board puzzle. It uses magnets and metal to catch the fish and was a big hit. (We’ve had it for 3 days and we’re already missing a piece, something that really annoys me because I’m kinda anal about keeping and finding all the pieces for these wooden puzzles.)

After the grandparents left we put the two girls down for bed and enjoyed playing with them a little longer than normal at bedtime.

Dearest Eden,

You’re two today. I can’t believe how you’ve grown! You’re much more independent than your sister was at this age and you definitely let us know when you’re unhappy, though it’s usually due to Lilah doing something you don’t approve of. You and her usually get along well, but when you aren’t getting along, you are not getting along. You’re a very kind sister and if I ask you give something to Lilah or to share you usually quickly obey.
You’re a very loving daughter. You often come up and give me random hugs and you’ll lay your sweet head on my lap when I’m at the computer, it might be because you want attention that you do the latter, but you’re kinda a mommas girl. You love hugging Daddy when he comes home and you often get to him before I do.
You’re very polite and will say bless you when you hear someone sneeze, even a stranger. You love hair. You often annoy your sister by wanting to play with her hair. You’re beginning to be a picky eater, but you take after your father in certain taste. You love graham crackers and milk after you eat your cereal, and so does he, you also enjoy brown rice, though you like it better with potpies, you’ll eat it with just butter and salt like your father. You also love cheese and especially cottage cheese. You ask for it right after you finish your graham crackers and milk.
You can be stubborn about cleaning up though, you love making a mess but don’t always love picking up.
You’re an early riser. I am often woken up by the sound of your voice saying “Mommy I’m awake, mommy I’m awake.”
You love washing your hands and brushing your teeth and you’re always so proud to tell us that you did it. “I did it!” is a phrase you use when you accomplish something.
You, like Lilah, love books and love being read too, and you enjoy coloring a lot lately.
You are a very sweet girl with a wonderful smile that is always on your face. You’re a bit of a cheese in front of the camera at times and you often don’t sit still long enough for a picture. You love to see the pictures that have been taken. You love being chased and playing games.
You are a very fun daughter and I am very happy to be your mother.
Happy Birthday little one.

Love,
Mommy

The video is dark on my screen so I know it might be very dark on other’s computers. I’m not sure if I’m even able to edit that.

Anyways this was taken on December 6, 2005, so Lilah was about 2 1/2. I just love seeing and hearing her in the video. Oh how I love home videos, I think my girls are soo cute. 😉 Of course our videos are all taken on our digital camera which doesn’t give the best quality of picture, but you get the gist.

If your able to see it clearly you’ll probably notice that her hair is a complete mess and has three braids. I think was just being silly with her hair and she had already slept in it, but she’s still cute. I think this is my favorite video of her so that’s why I wanted to post it.

Naia had a fever all week long. She had no other symptoms besides being a little grumpy so we thought it was just teething. She’s 4 1/2 months, in which some children do teethe this early, and it was just a fever. Eden had a fever off and on the whole weekend. Now she could have caught it from Naia, but she also could have gotten sick from being in the nursery class on Thursday. Neither would surprise me. Yesterday she had to stay home from church and the big family home evening we have with my family once a month. She was sad, but she had a Daddy day.
Now her birthday is coming up this week. We’re probably going to just stay home. We do have swimming planned, but it was more coincidental than on purpose (I don’t have Naia on Wednesday and so we planned swimming and then I realized it was her birthday.), but we’ve gotten clouds in this week and it’s monsoon season so I’m afraid we may not be able to go swimming. According to the weatherman it should still be cloudy and thunderstorms are likely. We’re mostly planning her favorite meal for dinner that night, which seems to be potpies with rice, and a cake. It won’t be as crazy as Lilah day, no party, but I don’t think she’ll care. She doesn’t eat pizza lately so Chuck E’ Cheese is a little unappealing. Though she did love the slide. We’d go to a park but if it wasn’t raining it would be hot and humid so that’s out of the question. Maybe we’ll play some inside games and chase her around. She loves being chased.

In a way I already think of her as being two. She gets 2 minutes for time out and has for a couple months now. She also is stubborn and hasn’t eaten her lunches lately. (She doesn’t eat the crust so I give it to her first the next day and she either doesn’t eat it or she plays with it, which gives her a time out and it put away for dinner.) I guess I feel as though she acts two so she seems to be two and has for a while. She also talked sooner than Lilah did so I think that aged her in my mind. Lilah didn’t really talk until about a week before she turned two where Eden has been saying a lot for a while.
My baby is getting big. I find myself holding her more lately and trying to enjoy these moments.

Side thought: There’s this boy in our ward that is 3 weeks older than Eden but really small. So small that I often think of him as being just one. When we were at a Relief Society activity the mom had him and he was getting in trouble. I heard her discipline him and my first thought was he wouldn’t understand her since he was so little but then I remembered he was Eden’s age and I often talk like that to Eden too. I think as a parent you know what your kids understand but forget what other kids might understand. People often underestimate what kids can comprehend if they don’t know them.

Lilah thought:
Lilah hurt her arm when I was at my parents on Wednesday. She did a belly flop on their linoleum floor and her left arm caught a lot of the weight. She’s been hurting since then. I had her arm in a scarf brace for a couple of days and my friend Sam also gave me some homeopathic medicine for bumps and bruises. She likes it and asks for it often and even though I can give it to her a lot I only like to twice a day. I don’t know if she hurt her arm seriously since some times she really babies it and other times she acts like nothing is wrong with it. Also, she hurt it on Wednesday and then Thursday she fell off my bed onto her hurt arm, so I think she hurt it again. I thought she was faking it mostly but then at my parents house yesterday my father accidentally hurt it while tickling her since I forgot to warn anyone about it. So I worry a little that’s it’s serious but at the same time I have a hard time since it appears that she plays it up for sympathy. Anyways the arm thing has made her very whinny lately. I guess the whining thing is a big circle. It gets better and then worse and right now it’s driving me nuts.
So I have a disabled daughter. I want to take her to the doctor but at the same time I think it’s fine, but like I said she still babies it and it appears to hurt easily if you do something to it. I just don’t know what to do.

Now, I should get sewing. I got out of my groove and didn’t sew this whole weekend. Instead I cleaned my bathrooms, a worthy cause but they’re not getting married in less than four weeks.